#WhatsOnMyMind | Comparison is the Thief of Joy

Comparison. – defined as consideration or an estimate of the similarities or dissimilarities between two things or people. And it’s something almost all of us do. 

We do it in the little things, such as the grade someone got in a test back in school to wondering why you haven’t received quarantine gifts from your mcm lmao. Yet, we do it in the big things too from how much someone earns to what they drive. 

Let’s be honest, comparing yourself to someone else can be a pretty pointless thing to do, and thats simply because that person is who they are, and you are you.. and well nobody is you, which is your power. Why are you comparing yourself to someone whose good and bad times aren’t even transparent. I said it in ‘Relationship Rambles I’ you never know what someone is going through behind closed doors to post the pretty pictures and it’s the same with success. Nobody is rushing to post their losses or bad days. 

Everyone’s journey is different.. their experiences, their hardships, their wins, its all individual and I promise you, just because you may follow what someone does down to their breakfast order, it doesn’t mean the same level of success will just magically happen for you. 

Often we look to people who are where we want to be, or who are our age and doing far better than us currently, and hope for some kind of motivation. However, a quote in a book I have ’12 Rules for Life’ sums it up perfectly.. “Compare yourself with who you were yesterday, not with who someone else is today.” – Jordan B. Peterson.

Now, don’t get me wrong, it’s okay to look at successful people for motivation, but it’s what you do with that going forward that makes all the difference. Are you going to sit and be upset about what you don’t have that they do or, will you do the work needed to get yourself to where you want to be? It’s all about your mindset

While it is all easier said than done, if you find that you compare yourself to someone and it just demotivates you, hopefully these few tips I have will help you remember that you’re on the right track..

1. Be Grateful

You see today? May 15th 2020, you’ll never live it again and so you should be grateful for all the small things that happen today and everyday. When you acknowledge the small blessings when they happen, you realise there is always something to be thankful for. So even if you don’t have what someone else has, you have health and given the current climate, thats better than nothing. 

2. Embrace Right Now

Now I know it can be draining seeing some people living their best quarantine life right now, starting businesses and whatnot however it is not by force. Everyone and everything has its season, don’t rush where you’re meant to be just because everyone else is doing it. Enjoy the pace, enjoy the time out and rest. When it is your time, it will happen. 

3. Learn From People

Like I said, it’s okay to look to people for motivation, but why look to people where you don’t have a clue about the ins and outs? You can learn from the people around you who are successful, as you know their reality a little bit more. Better yet, align your social media feed with people who educate you, who share nuggets of knowledge that motivate you and teach you. Remember, there is room for everyone to win. 

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We’re on this journey together, because it is hard to stop comparing yourself sometimes.. however, I hope this blog dropped some gems for you to think about. Remember, comparison is only the thief of joy if we compare ourselves poorly.

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“For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.”
Ecclesiastes 3:1

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