Imposter Syndrome. Now, this isn’t something we all experience but a lot of people, especially me, have been through it and whew it is not cute.
I mean, what is imposter syndrome anyway?
Cambridge Dictionary defines it as, “the feeling that your achievements are not real or that you do not deserve praise or success”
In basic words, it’s when you feel like a ‘fraud’ and you feel like you don’t belong where you are. You feel as though you’re not as smart or good at what you do, even when everyone else believes you are.
People who usually have imposter syndrome often doubt themselves a lot, self sabotage and often feel disappointed when you don’t always reach the goals you set for yourself. And often this can lead to anxiety because you wonder whether you were really good at it, but instead wonder if it was just luck.
Now, battling imposter syndrome isn’t easy or a one time fight, however it is possible to start to overcome it. Hopefully my few tips below will help you to overcome imposter syndrome a little better.
- Remember What You’ve Accomplished
Often you look at others (which you shouldn’t, because comparison is the thief of joy), and you will wonder why you haven’t reached where they have even though you do the same thing. Take a step back and realise how far you’ve come. You have accomplished so many things that you don’t even think are big, but trust me, they are.
2. Remember to Reward Yourself
You’re allowed to congratulate yourself even for the little things. Stop waiting for the big milestones, each moment in this journey matters and you deserve to pat yourself on the back.
3. Remember You’re a Work in Progress
Stop being so hard yourself. You’re not a finished product and nobody expects you to be. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and all your goals can’t be accomplished in one day either. Great things take a lifetime of learning and building to achieve and you’re exactly where you need to be.
4. Remember Feelings Aren’t Fact
We all have some irrational thoughts, sometimes even damaging ones and often times we believe what we think. Take time to decide whether your thoughts and feelings are fact. While you may feel like you’re not good enough, it doesn’t mean that you’re not.
5. Remember To Keep Pushing
Even when you feel like you don’t belong, you have to keep pushing. Well, at least try anyway. Your goals are reachable and your thoughts shouldn’t stop you from being the you that you are capable of becoming. Keep pushing and refuse to be stopped.
‘Don’t let the fear of losing keep you from playing the game’
We all have our time, our season and it may not be when you want, but it will come so be ready. I say this all the time, but, you are exactly where you need to be.
“Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.”