#WhatsOnMyMind | Season(s)

”For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.“ Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NLT)

But what does this mean? Because I don’t know about you guys but right now I am in a season, in fact I feel like I am between seasons. And while I know that the word says theres a season and time for everything, it starts to feel like life is passing me by.. with everything. you know.. and like I said before comparison is the thief of joy, and we’re not gonna like look at what other people have and be like “I want” and “I wish” because that’s no bueno. like we don’t do that!

I can’t lie I’m currently in a season that is challenging me.. from the way I think to what I do.. how I operate? Yeah, I’m feeling a lot of change right now.. and I don’t like it. Not because change isn’t good, but moreso because I don’t know the direction of where I am going, but I was comfortable in the direction I was heading. but I feel like in this season, for the beginning anyway, I need to be uncomfortable so that I can bring in the discipline and routine required for what’s next.. whatever that may look like.

So now, like maybe some of you, I am in the waiting too.. in between seasons, not fully sure what’s next and not fully sure that I haven’t already missed what’s for me.. (even though I know, deep down, that what is for me will be mine).

What do you do when it feels like the season you thought was for you, is passing you by? or what do you do in between seasons? what do you do in the waiting? because these are the very same questions I find myself asking.. and while I’m still learning, as you guys know, here are some of the tips that I’ve found helpful in between seasons that have helped me make the most of every moment, despite the season I am in. 

1 Prepare

One thing my dad used to always used to say to me was “if you fail to prepare, prepare to fail”.. which essentially means that if you don’t take the time to plan and prepare adequately for something, you’re setting yourself up for failure. Look at our life seasons like the seasons of nature.. notice how we tend to plant root vegetables in the winter frost to allow for the mid-spring harvest. 

One of the questions I had to sit with and ask myself during this season was, “Am I setting myself up for success by planning and preparing adequately for the future?”. And to be honest with you – I wasn’t. I would make plans, but wouldn’t prepare to execute them and then wonder how the time passed so quickly.. disappointed in myself because I knew I could, and should have, done more. 

My question to you, is what are you planting? I had to come to accept that while I’m between seasons, I can sit around and wait for things to change, and wait for better, but ultimately it requires work. You can’t sit and wait for the harvest of the fruit you never planted. It can be hard to find the motivation sometimes when you feel like you are behind, but a little bit of planning everyday goes a long way – believe me. 

 2 Be Intentional 

I guess thing point goes hand in hand with the first point, but during this time you have to be intentional. So often in this life we are full of “I wants” and “I must have”.. we want to do this, we want to go here, we want to experience this, hit these goals.. we say it, but we rarely ever have any intention behind it. I know I fall into this trap a lot, always talking but very little action. 

During this season, I had to be real with myself and understand what are my true priorities and values in life? and then I had to accept that my actions did not match with the priorities I stated I have, nor the things I say I value the most. I was not thinking, moving or even speaking with intent and as a result, I had poor results. 

Sometimes we let our feelings control our actions.. we let our feelings control our movement, and that has to stop. I can’t lie there have been so many days where I don’t feel like I want to do something but there is a reward for my obedience and accountability to myself.. and that is my results. Whether you find yourself in a new, old or even in between seasons, remember your ‘why’ and remember the importance of intentionality, because that’s how you get results.

3 Be Adaptable 

One of the most important life skills you can have, is to be adaptable. The thing about seasons, is that they never really end. As humans, we’ve been conditioned to think that like our favourite show, there will be a final season.. but that final season is never going to come. As you spend the time in each season planning, doing the work, being intentional, understanding and appreciating where you are in the season, you realise that all you’re doing is preparing for the next season. It’s like the journey of life.. you know we have winter, spring, summer, autumn, again and again and again.

I had to accept that this (life? lol) is going to keep continue going, I am going to continue growing. And this process is going to challenge you and me, it’s going to call you out of your name and character, it’s going to cause you to have to become a different person and you need to be willing to accept that as a part of going through seasons and going through changes you need to be able to adapt 

Question: How can I view life as a continuous journey of growth and learning rather than a series of fixed endpoints?

4 Embrace and Accept 

Honestly, it is hard to navigate yourself into a new season, or a new journey, when you don’t even know where you are currently. And when the season you’re in feels like it’s never-ending, I can understand why you may not want to embrace where you are right now.. but it’s so important to assess where you are in your current season, because that will help you understand what’s needed for you to get to the next season. 

I found this step the hardest if I am being honest.. when I have felt like I am rock bottom, that last thing I want to do is measure my failure or what I did not do.. but I had to reframe my way of thinking. I asked myself, “what steps can I take to fully embrace and make the most of my current season, while also preparing for what lies ahead?”. Now I’m still figuring out all the steps I can take to embrace this season, but one thing I know for sure is that it starts in the mind. 

You need to understand what’s needed for you to hit those goals, and that starts in embracing AND accepting where you are currently.. whatever that may look like to you. It will help you to move forward better. 

I always say that’s what’s for you, will never pass you by and if like me, you’re in a season, or even between seasons, and feeling less than confident in the next steps, just know that it will work you. This situation will pass, things will get better, and you will see this through. 

love, S ♡

“Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end.”
Ecclesiastes 3:11 NLT

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